We Are More

The whole notion that a lot of girls have, usually still in their highschool mentality, has been bothering me lately. Where they still don’t see the reality of it and imagine this perfect relationship where the guy is perfect and he does everything for her and she just rides the wave of his love. This image that she should have this guy who does it all and she doesn’t have to do anything simply because she is the girl. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with a guy who is in love with a girl and he does all these things for her out of love, but it’s a two way street, and when the girl is operating out of expectancy rather than gratitude, things break down pretty quickly.

Relationships demand respect, and how is there any respect when a man is doing all this stuff for a girl and she only see’s it as what he is just supposed to do. She may have respect for him in this case, but I’m doubting if he would have much for her.

Avoid expectancy at all costs in a relationship, because expectancy is the cause of all offence. I write this from the perspective of a male with the example of the perfect guy, but I do mean all of this in both ways, as girls to guys, and as guys to girls. Remove expectancy from your viewpoint and instead use gratitude, and with gratitude respect will follow. Honour each other and recognize when the other is honouring you. And if you’re looking to make things easier for each other, give them a reason to respect you, stand firm to your beliefs, but give liberty to theirs. If the both of you can operate this way, a strong relationship can be built with a love that will surpass the honeymoon stage and continue on strongly afterwards.

I’m just frustrated a lot right now. Work tonight was so long, and so typical of the people I work with nobody does anything, so I end up doing everything, then to add to it word got through the store that it was my birthday and all the girls start inviting me out tonight, dropping innuendoes that I should stop lifting heavy stuff as I’ll need my energy tonight and them hoping to cash in on birthday sex. I suppose to most guys that would sound just great, but I’m not like that, I only want intimacy with someone I love (laugh if you want I really couldn’t care).
I knew I was going to be working all day so I was prepared for that, but it still kinda sucked to wake up, have an hour at home and then go and work that shift.

A few nights ago I had a decent night just relaxing with someone, but then today I just feel like I’m getting questioned about it, like how dare you be happy, or begin to move on, or begin to spent time with someone else. Like honestly, I didn’t say shit when she had her little flings for marty or whoever else, it hurt like hell when I found out, and that was like a year ago, but now I have a small thing after all this time and it’s like no deal, that’s not cool. Whatever, I tend to have a lot of anger when it comes to my birthday so all this is probably not as big a deal as it is to me right now, but I’m just not having today

Anonymous asked: You talk about that other girl for so long and now you're seeing someone else? Unexpected, but congratulations.

Well it’s been a while since I’ve talked about her, and yes, but kinda, it’s complicated, but in either case, my life has been at a stall for so long, and I usually just end up getting hurt whenever she’s around or I’m curious about her, so I put two together

Family? Other plans or out of country
Friends? Hahaha 

It’s been a while, I forgot how nice it is to feel that sense of protection and responsibility, to be there for that person to rest their head on your chest. To lay late into the night and talk about life, God, and other such things, to bare the deep parts of your heart and speak rawly. I know it’s not totally right, nor is it entirely what I want, but it’s nice to know it is possible again, it gives me a hope that I can make this life lovely again, that I will no longer react naturally by pushing away out of fear, but I can give it a chance.